You have to learn to say NO, particularly when you're trying to focusing on delivering content during your next boot camp. By the way, during my boot camps, I got a gazillion things going on in my head during the boot camp. Even if you told me then, I'd never remember what you said or who told me what. Literally, by the time you walk away, it is likely I already forgot. I am thinking 5 steps ahead, "Oh, man. I have to make sure I show this section. I forgot teach this point."
That's what I am doing up here; I'm serving my audience, so I cannot serve you individually as I need to focus on delivering what I promised. Therefore, the easiest way to serve all of you and the easiest way for you to help me serve you is to protect my time. Therefore, I need to say NO to you to respect myself and out of respect for my audience.
That's how you have to think. You have to be selfish. Personally, I do not consider it to be selfish because you need to honor your audience. You owe them the time you promised to finish what you said. Therefore, you must say NO to honor them. Plus, you teach them to respect others besides yourself when you say No to people. They'll get to the point where they realize that they need to provide quality reasoning to get you to say yes, because from now on your gut reaction is going to be NO. It will not be easy at first. You will feel like you are hurting other people's feelings by saying NO; however, it needs to be this way. You have to say NO.
As soon as you accept that this is the only reasonable thing to do in your business and your personal life, then you'll become more comfortable doing it. Funny isn't it? It is funny that we are trained to be so nice that we put ourselves and our clients at a disadvantage to be of assistance to other folks who are not respecting our time. Furthermore, these people haven't committed any financial obligation to you, yet we take their calls and allow them to waste your time.
Therefore, step-up and begin practicing no to everybody. Your kids, your boss, your partners, and your friends will all hear a no and start reevaluating the way they treat you. Remember, you taught them to treat you as if you will respond with a yes to anything they ask, so it is up to you to teach them to respond differently now. Help them learn to treat you with respect, and when you would like to do something or when you hear something that fills you with passion, then you can choose to say yes.
That's what I am doing up here; I'm serving my audience, so I cannot serve you individually as I need to focus on delivering what I promised. Therefore, the easiest way to serve all of you and the easiest way for you to help me serve you is to protect my time. Therefore, I need to say NO to you to respect myself and out of respect for my audience.
That's how you have to think. You have to be selfish. Personally, I do not consider it to be selfish because you need to honor your audience. You owe them the time you promised to finish what you said. Therefore, you must say NO to honor them. Plus, you teach them to respect others besides yourself when you say No to people. They'll get to the point where they realize that they need to provide quality reasoning to get you to say yes, because from now on your gut reaction is going to be NO. It will not be easy at first. You will feel like you are hurting other people's feelings by saying NO; however, it needs to be this way. You have to say NO.
As soon as you accept that this is the only reasonable thing to do in your business and your personal life, then you'll become more comfortable doing it. Funny isn't it? It is funny that we are trained to be so nice that we put ourselves and our clients at a disadvantage to be of assistance to other folks who are not respecting our time. Furthermore, these people haven't committed any financial obligation to you, yet we take their calls and allow them to waste your time.
Therefore, step-up and begin practicing no to everybody. Your kids, your boss, your partners, and your friends will all hear a no and start reevaluating the way they treat you. Remember, you taught them to treat you as if you will respond with a yes to anything they ask, so it is up to you to teach them to respond differently now. Help them learn to treat you with respect, and when you would like to do something or when you hear something that fills you with passion, then you can choose to say yes.
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